Can virgins have STIs?

You might think that if you and your partner are both virgins and are in a monogamous relationship that you’re safe from sexually transmitted diseases. But unfortunately this isn’t true. If either of you have been sexually active in the past, even if you’re a virgin, you could still have an STD because some can be spread through unprotected oral sex or even skin to skin contact. To find out more, take a look at this question and answer from a user of The Mix.

“I’ve recently started having sex with my girlfriend. We were both virgins before, so I’m wondering if it’s still possible for us to catch STIs?”

Virgins could still have STIs from unprotected oral sex

There are many different types of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and they can be spread in different ways, not just through penetrative sex. This means that if you or your partner has had close sexual contact or unprotected oral sex with someone else, there could be a chance that you have picked up an STI then. If neither of you has had any sexual contact before, it is very unlikely that you could have an STI.

There are also some infections that are not necessarily sexually transmitted at all, such as cystitis or thrush.

Learn more about safe sex here.

Some STIs have no symptoms

People who have an infection sometimes get symptoms to show that something is wrong. But often they don’t. Where there are symptoms, these may include unusual discharge from the vagina or penis, heavy periods or bleeding between periods, pain or burning sensation when peeing, rashes, itching or tingling around the genitals or anus. Some infections have symptoms but can be harder to spot, such as genital warts.

Visit a GUM clinic to get tested if you’re unsure

If you’re worried that you may have an infection, you can get advice and testing through your local sexual health services or at a genito-urinary medicine (GUM) clinic. GUM clinics are located attached to or within local hospitals, and are usually separate, discreet departments. GUM consultations are free and confidential, which means that no one will be told about your visit, unless you want them to be told.

Can you get an STD if both partners have no STDs?

If both partners have been tested and are free of STDs then there is no chance of anyone catching anything. But being a virgin is no guarantee that you’re free of STDs, getting tested at a clinic is the only way to know. If you’ve both got the all clear, great! But unless you’re looking to get pregnant you should still use some sort of birth control.

More support with STDs and relationships

If you would like to talk to someone about anything to do with sex and relationships, you might like to visit your local Brook centre. You could also share your thoughts or questions on our discussion boards.